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Teach Your Child HOW to Struggle (Successfully!)

Have you noticed that your child is totally unwilling to struggle?

That the minute something is hard, they instantly give up?

If your child is shutting down (refusing, running away, melting down, distracting, non-responding), it is likely because they don’t feel SAFE in the process of struggling with something hard.

Let’s be honest, it doesn’t feel good to struggle. But it’s necessary for growth.

Learning something new requires it. Even something that comes naturally will require struggle to get to the next level, ask any professional athlete.

We as adults learn ways to hold ourselves through the discomfort of the struggle (and boy is it a process!)

The meltdown is your child’s way to avoid the struggle. To get away from it. It’s literally fight or flight.

They haven’t learned HOW to struggle successfully yet.

We want your child to move towards struggle (or reframe: conquering a challenge!), not away from it.

That’s why the magic ✨ comes in creating a safe space for your child to struggle.

A space where struggling feels like part of the growth, the meat of the process, where the learning happens. A space that shows your child HOW to struggle successfully.

A safe space for struggling is one where:

Remember, struggle is the WILLINGNESS to engage with something hard. It’s necessary, over and over again, to learn to read.

You can show your child how to struggle successfully!

If you need support in implementing these steps with your child, let me show you how to take the struggle out of reading at home. In just 30 minutes, I’ll guide you through concrete steps you can take to move from meltdowns and power struggles to connection, ease, and fun. Let me help you start shifting the needle with your child now!

You’ve got this and I’ve got you!

xo

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Hi! I’m Cara

I’m a reading specialist and parent coach. I show you how to take the struggle out of reading at home.

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